The Danger of Auto-Pilot

06-13-16 (2)_edited-1The Danger of Auto-Pilot

“Those moments during your day when you are not really
directing your thoughts and behavior.”

Mel Robbins – interview with Success Magazine

Truth be told, Patty and I both are still held captive by our jobs. Don’t get me wrong, I’m thankful, but for a large percentage of the population, their job won’t get them to retirement. For most people they just don’t see a way out. And when they complain to me and I offer to show them some options that Patty and I have discovered, usually the door slams shut. That’s the danger of auto-pilot.

Just last weekend as we enjoyed the summer weather and music at one of our favorite hangouts. The gentleman at the next table commented that his Teamster pension will run out in 10 years. I recently spoke with new neighbor who was forced to downsize because his pension was cut.

Work and work ethic is honorable. However blind loyalty to a company can be disappointing. Patty had to start over after 36 years of loyal service to her company. I’m advising my children and the young people I meet continue to work hard, but have a Plan B. Go to college, get a good job, work 40 hours (or more) a week for 40 years and retire on 40 percent of what you formerly had to live on…  if you are lucky. Or you can make your own luck by owning a business.

So Mike if you’ve made to retirement, I celebrate your journey and success. According to the United States Census 2013, a lot of baby boomers won’t be able to retire… and I would add, as long as they stay on auto-pilot. But everyone can make the choice to take the helm back again with a little open mindedness and adventurous spirit.

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Fun and Musically Inspirational

foursome-competitiveFun and Musically Inspirational.

Salut Salon is an all-female chamber music quartet from Hamburg, Germany. If you have three and a half minutes and want to be entertained and inspired – watch this video.

You Raise Me Up

Celtic WomanWhen I am down and, oh my soul, so weary;
When troubles come and my heart burdened be;
Then, I am still and wait here in the silence,
Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up…

In the course of our day, every encounter with another human being presents an opportunity to raise that person up, leave them neutral (indifferent), or put them down.

In our culture, it seems that there is no lack of people who will put you down as a management technique or in a social situation to display superiority or control. It can be subtle or blatant but the intention of both is to put you down. Really it is unchecked ego resulting from insecurity. It certainly lacks any semblance of class or maturity.

On the other hand, don’t we all enjoy being around that person with the social or managerial skill who raises us up? I believe we all were put on the earth to find and fulfill our purpose. Life can be difficult, lonely and challenging sometimes. That’s why it’s so healthy and refreshing to be raised up, edified and encouraged.

As a coach, I want to offer you three tips on how to raise people up today. 1. Offer everyone you pass today a smile. 2. During a conversation say something that will build the other person up. Be encouraging and complementary. 3. When appropriate hugs are amazing, or maybe a gentle touch on the shoulder or hand. An ancient text says “the touch of an ambassador is healing”.

Finally, as a coach, hopefully it will be said of me, “you raise me up” to be more than I thought could be.

For Good

Kristen-ChenowethKristin Chenoweth has enjoyed a success in television and Broadway. Apparently during a recent concert she invited a random member of the audience, Sarah Horn, to sing a duet with her form the musical Wicked. The song is called “For Good”. What happened after that was quite magical. At the end of the performance, Kristin commented that it was inspirational. As Vice President of Fun and Inspiration I felt obligated to post on my website with sincere thanks to both women for creating a very special moment. Enjoy.

The Path I Have Chosen

Recently a dear friend asked if I’d been writing lately. I had to confess, “No not for a couple of months… too many transitions” I excused myself. For one, I moved (again) in May. The lease was up and it was best to make a change. The struggle was a result of my vision to move east (more urban) and best options were west (more suburban). So here I am, west, within a couple miles of my departure point five years ago and to my surprise I really feel like this is where I’m supposed to be for now.

Additionally, today I make the transition from 58 to 59 years old. Yes, Dwight Eisenhower was in the second year of his presidency when I was born on June 23. Richard Nixon was his Vice President. I don’t know about you, but things like birthdays put me in an introspective state.

I was all prepared to unleash a 2500 word blog when I had a phone call from another dear friend. And during that conversation I was able to make peace with the success and failure, the joy and sorrow, the ups and downs of the last 59 years in these seven words.

This is the path I have chosen.

Honestly I can’t say I’m where I envisioned myself at this juncture in time. (Maybe everyone has these types of thoughts at times.) But in so many ways I’m incredibly blessed that I refuse to regret even one mistake or circumstance in the fear that it might diminish or tarnish these blessings.

The path I have chosen has brought me:

  • This connection to you today, which I consider a gift.
  • A great family, three beautiful children and a grand daughter.
  • Friends, wonderful friends.
  • A circle of trusted confidants and mentors.
  • My good health.
  • A rewarding career helping people find and reach their health goals as a Professional Health Coach.
  • Hope for a fulfilling and rewarding future.

I’d like to leave you with this thought. Take time to really weigh and evaluate the things that most matter to you and the achievements that are waiting to be undertaken. Things like your health, relationships and financial goals. Then make choices in harmony with those priorities, and you’ll create the life you have chosen.

Your friend,
Mr. Suburbia

p.s. If you have a thought, please share it with me (and the world) in the box below.

Procrastination

Procrastination

This You Tube video was brought to my attention by my friend and colleague Stan Perkins of the Growth Coach. A question for entrepreneurs and business owners. How much time gets spent getting ready to get your “stuff” (being the activities that actually create income in your business) done? Then apply the definition over to any change you are trying to make for personal improvement or achievement, like losing the extra weight, improving the relationships or the continuing education that will increase your value in the market place.

Don’t let procrastination cheat you out of this eighty one seconds of humor, insight and motivation. Watch the video NOW and go out there and get your stuff done!

Always Believe

Always Believe

Another inspiring story of personal achievement. Arthur (47), a very discouraged Gulf War Vet finds hope for his health and life in a yoga program. His amazing weight-loss is an outward reflection of the spiritual and emotional healing he experienced. I guarantee that Arthur’s story of transformation will transform you. Kudos to DDP Yoga for great marketing but most importantly a great product and service.

At Take Shape Now we celebrate everyone on the path to better health regardless of the product or system.


Inspiration and Fun...

You might be asking yourself what does inspiration and fun have to do with weight-loss and health. It's the garnish and spice to optimal living. Communicate with me privately (immediately below) or publish your thoughts on the web in the "Speak Your Mind" box at the bottom of the page.

Free Hugs

Free Hugs Campaign

This video has been viewed over 70 million times and if you’ve already seen it, watch it again. It’s worth 3 minutes and 40 seconds of your time. After that, go hug somebody and leave your experience at the bottom of the page in the “speak your mind” box.

I had a 7:30 a.m. meeting today and gave out two hugs to Amy and Danielle both BNI colleagues. Great way to begin the day.

Inspiration and Fun...

You might be asking yourself what does inspiration and fun have to do with weight-loss and health. It's the garnish and spice to optimal living. Communicate with me privately (immediately below) or publish your thoughts on the web in the "Speak Your Mind" box at the bottom of the page.

Trip the Light

This amazing video is guaranteed to lift your spirit and and fill you with inspiration. It has 7 million youtube views. I’m not familiar with the back story to this video. If you have any insight into Trip the Light, please share in the “speak your mind” box below.


Inspiration and Fun...

You might be asking yourself what does inspiration and fun have to do with weight-loss and health. It's the garnish and spice to optimal living. Communicate with me privately (immediately below) or publish your thoughts on the web in the "Speak Your Mind" box at the bottom of the page.

Move

I came across this clever and entertaining one-minute video while perusing my Facebook news feed. (Speaking of which, click here to connect on Facebook. I’d love to add you as a friend.) I hope this inspires you to get out and move!

MOVE from Rick Mereki on Vimeo.

Inspiration and Fun...

You might be asking yourself what does inspiration and fun have to do with weight-loss and health. It's the garnish and spice to optimal living. Communicate with me privately (immediately below) or publish your thoughts on the web in the "Speak Your Mind" box at the bottom of the page.